{"id":1343,"date":"2016-01-05T09:53:00","date_gmt":"2016-01-05T08:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/2016\/01\/05\/sobre-perdonar\/"},"modified":"2016-01-05T09:53:00","modified_gmt":"2016-01-05T08:53:00","slug":"sobre-perdonar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/sobre-perdonar\/","title":{"rendered":"Sobre perdonar"},"content":{"rendered":"

On Forgiveness | The Book of Life<\/a><\/p>\n

We know how to practise this attitude, for we already do it all the time quite naturally with children. Faced with an example of a child\u2019s violence or unreason, we know to ask at once whether they are tired or have eaten enough, whether they are worried or are being hurt by someone else. We don\u2019t need to learn the lessons of forgiveness from scratch, we need merely to expand the range of people to whom we are willing to apply them. At moments of tension in domestic life, we should take a moment to think of those pictures of one\u2019s partner as a six-year-old, perhaps on a swing in the garden or waiting with a nervous smile outside school. It becomes harder, crucially harder, to be outraged and miffed by their present conduct once one has been reminded of where this person began.<\/p>\n

It also helps to recognise that forgiveness is not just the recourse of the weak. It reaches its most admirable and moving form precisely when it manifests itself in the strong, when it is recognised as a sign of maturity and inner confidence, a symptom of greatness of heart and sanity of mind.<\/p>\n

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There is often a fear that to forgive is to risk the good order of society. But in reality, if one always seeks to extract full justice, civilisation (and, at a more minor level, marriages, relationships, friendships and business ties) will not be able to continue. History shows that well-functioning societies require heroic moves of forgiveness on the part of groups that have been horribly wronged, in order that life can progress and other matters attended to. One needs to learn the art of overlooking, the genius of pretending not to have noticed. It means giving mean people too great a role in life never to forgive them, it allows them to hold our minds indefinitely hostage to their sadism. It allows the enemy to win. Forgiveness constitutes the true victory over the bad and is the ultimate marker of strength and courage.<\/b><\/p>\n


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Ya sabemos c\u00f3mo practicar esa esta actitud, pues lo hacemos todo el tiempo de forma natural con los ni\u00f1os. Ante el ejemplo de un ni\u00f1o \u00abenrrabietado\u00bb sabemos preguntarnos si est\u00e1 cansado, si tiene hambre, si est\u00e1 preocupado o alguien le ha hecho da\u00f1o. No necesitamos aprender de cero c\u00f3mo perdonar, necesitamos simplemente expandir el rango de gente a la que queremos aplicarlo. En momentos de tensi\u00f3n en la vida dom\u00e9stica, deber\u00edamos tomarnos un momento para pensar en las im\u00e1genes de la pareja cuando ten\u00eda seia a\u00f1os, quiz\u00e1s en un columpio o esperando en el colegio con una sonrisa nerviosa. Se hace duro, crucialmente m\u00e1s duro, estar enfadado o encolerizado por su conducta actual una vez uno ha recordado d\u00f3nde empez\u00f3 esa persona.<\/span><\/p>\n


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Tambi\u00e9n ayuda reconocer que el perd\u00f3n no es s\u00f3lo el recurso de los d\u00e9biles. Alcanza su forma m\u00e1s admirable y conmovedora cuando de manifiesta en las personas fuertes, cuando es reconocido como un signo de madurez y confianza en uno mismo, un s\u00edntoma de la grandeza de coraz\u00f3n y una mente sana.<\/span><\/p>\n


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\u2026Se necesita aprender el arte de no darse cuenta, el genio de finjir no haberse dado cuenta. Significa dar un papel demasiado importante en tu vida a la gente \u00abmala\u00bb si nunca los perdonas, les permite mantener en nuestras mentes controladas con nuestra una hostilidad hacia ellos. Permite al enemigo vencer. El perd\u00f3n constituye la verdadera victoria sobre lo malo y es el m\u00e1ximo indicador de la fuerza y el coraje de una persona.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

On Forgiveness | The Book of Life We know how to practise this attitude, for we already do it all the time quite naturally with children. Faced with an example of a child\u2019s violence or unreason, we know to ask at once whether they are tired or have eaten enough, whether they are worried or […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1343","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-sin-categoria"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1343","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1343"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1343\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1343"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1343"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/silta.es\/juantatay\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1343"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}